Divorce can be nasty enough, but if custody of children is brought into the mix the situation can get more difficult. If it were that easy to award custody to a parent, there would be far fewer problems with parenting and children’s ability to adjust.
If you want to make sure you stay in your children’s lives after divorce, here are a few reminders.
You need a lawyer
Having a family law attorney in your corner during the custody trial is crucial if you want to make sure your rights are protected, reminds Matthewsfamilylawyers.com. A lawyer knows the legal system better than you do, no matter how much you love your kids. Love may not be enough if your right to stay in your children’s lives is in question.
If possible, don’t go for sole custody
A divorce hurts, but your children are the ones who bear the brunt of your separation. You must put their best interests before yours if needed. It doesn’t help your kids to be taken away from you or your ex completely because you two were unable to see eye to eye. Another concern is that asking for sole custody comes with a higher burden of proof that your ex-spouse is unfit to have custody of your kids. In many cases, the judge always put the child’s best interests before the parents’, and if the judge believes the child will benefit more from joint custody, they are not going to be inclined to grant one parent sole custody.
Be on your best behavior
This means inside and outside the courtroom. Behave decently and don’t try to brainwash your kids to hate your ex. No matter how much your ex has wronged you, they are still your kid’s parent as much as you are. If you try to paint a bad picture of your ex in front of the judge, don’t think the judge will take your word for it. Your poor tactic may even work to your disadvantage.